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The Paradoxical Commandments
A long time ago a friend gave me a present which was a desk plaque of the paradoxical commandments1. I was having a hard time juggling being a new parent, career change and my footing was kind of wobbly. In short she could see I wasn’t my normal happy self. That gift is still on my office desk.
In the past 72 hours I came to the realization that someone who approached me, (repeatedly) is the one who was proactively seeking out victims. This person allowed a blatantly false narrative to permeate, for unknown reasons….for now I’m following law enforcement request and my attorneys advice - it’s called “spoliation of evidence”
So I needed to remind myself of the following
1) People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered. Love them anyway.
🌶understand that boundaries are healthy and at times completely necessary. If you tell someone to stop, you’re hurting me and they continue - that means they lack the self respect to not inflict pain. Understand that it is okay to walk away from that person.
2) If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives. Do good anyway.
🌶Oh FFS don’t humblebrag about doing good. That kind of self aggrandizing behavior is obnoxious and tawdry. Furthermore it negates “doing good” it is also a sign of deep insecurity. If you need the accolades or affirmations from random strangers then you’re not actually doing good…
3) If you are successful, you will win false friends and true enemies. Succeed anyway.
🌶success can be a lonely endeavor. Conversely I find that if you help others to succeed the return on your (time) investment pays in dividends. Trust me on this, it is worth the investment and rooting for other’s success. When they succeed, you succeed too
4) The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway.
🌶but never forgot those who betrayed your trust. Or those who relished for the destruction. If they realign their allegiances to the very same people who doxed, harassed, lied and otherwise smeared you - they were never actually your friend or ally. Pick a lane and stay in it.
5) Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable. Be honest and frank anyway.
🌶but be prepared that some will try to weaponize your honesty and frankness in a selfish yet self serving endeavor to hurt you or to hurt others around you. Snakes, always be leary of snakes who suddenly “be-friend” you - their intentions are not honorable.
6) The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds. Think big anyway.
🌶do not allow their smallness to make you feel or think small. Allowing their smallness dominion over you -means you’re giving people your power to people who do not deserve your power.
7) People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs. Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
🌶 be mindful that some underdogs are ravenous and have an unquenchable thirst of perennial “I’m the victim” - when in reality they are the abuser or enable the abuser to further cause you pain. Don’t walk away from these individuals, run away from them. These are dangerous individuals. And when necessary take the alpha dog aka beta Satan down but also take down the alpha dog’s pack down.
8) People really need help but may attack you if you do help them. Help people anyway.
🌶some people may take advantage of your desire to help others. The key here is to delineate those who mean you harm and those who genuinely need your help. Again those who suddenly befriend, understand that they may have an ulterior and malicious agenda. Meaning if they solely befriended you to gain your trust, only to later use what you shared do not be shocked to discover they were back channeling the entire time. These kind of people are deeply troubled and dangerous individuals.
9) What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway.
🌶rebuilding offers you a unique opportunity to make a better and more fortified structure. But be mindful when building those walls, you might over fortify and this could further isolate you. True friends disagree, but willingly forgive each other. False friends will go scorched earth, withhold information and are intent on destroying you, wholly and completely. Do not let them make you feel ugly - their ugliness is fully on display as is their disgusting racism.
10) Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth. Give the world the best you have anyway.
🌶sometimes being kicked in the teeth can make you want to stay down. That some how you deserve the smears, harassment, the blatant lies -that you must have done something. As hard as this is, you need to get back up and put one foot in front of another. Admittedly today I want to tell a lot of people to f__k off but I know I can’t do that because… at any rate I’m taking the day off because I have follow up meetings…
so now that you know exactly where my head space is - feel free to ask me questions…
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It saddens me to read of this kind of behavior adversely affecting you. You are a really good, effective human being. And you have helped thousands of us understand what is happening politically and legally. Priceless work, really. Thank you, so I stand in support of you, now, today, and tomorrow.
I’ve always appreciated your honesty and bravery. You have always brought evidence and it has been educational. I saw what transpired over the weekend and it truly was disheartening and thought I may not know all of the particulars, I harkened back to previous threads I remembered and some of the questions that swirled through my brain, was how unprofessional. immature and downright cruel to discuss someone who was not there to defend. One of the most offensive parts of your calling out a wrong, was the plagiarism and theft of your intellectual property and the abuse of trust. The narrative seemed to be manipulated in a way to distract from that and focus on the denigrating women or their personal experiences with the abuse of one person or rather, the predator I’ll and opportunistic behavior of one person. True professionals, don’t spend their days on twitter attacking others. Intelligence professionals do not spend days on twitter attacking individuals. Researchers and writers do not spend days on twitter attacking individuals. I know an FBI agent personally who worked on the Isabella Gardner art heist and the Whitey Bolger case. He’s not on Twitter. You wouldn’t find his name anywhere on social media. I know an ex CIA agent, author and MSNBC analyst. He doesn’t spend hours on twitter talking about his credentials nor attacking anyone. True professionals do their work, show up with receipts and do not draw attention to themselves. There’s more than these points to add, but the nastiness and backstabbing behavior were demonstrative of poor character, inflated ego and above all, base nature. People who spend their time denouncing the people around Epstein For his abuse of underage women while attacking women online, is the ultimate hypocrisy. Your voice is missed. Your threads with explanations of the legal wrangling, are missed. We all lose without you there. You are sorely missed by many of us who appreciate your photographic memory and your attention to detail. You deserved so much better and whether it’s jealousy or sociopathy, it was all too much to bear......sending you much love and good wishes. T