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May 31, 2022Liked by File411

Filet, I am truly so very sorry. Please seek support and lean on those who love you. We will be here when you are feeling ready to tackle this mess we are in as a country. Be well. Be kind to yourself. Believe that you are needed and loved dearly.❤️

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First and foremost are your steps to healing. I cannot imagine having to explain to others because of the work relationship what has happened. You are reliving the initial grief on a regular.

We will be here when you write, always.

Thank you for this, I will go study it now. Be good to you.

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May 31, 2022Liked by File411

Back at you; Be Well. The sounds of the ocean are calming and healing. Take the time to take it all in.

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May 31, 2022Liked by File411

My love to you File. I'm still struggling with my youngest sons death almost a year ago. It's ok to not be ok as long as you realize that.

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May 31, 2022Liked by File411

Thank you for this reporting, Filey.

Have you thought of seeking professional help? Can tell from my personal standpoint and life right now I am an inch away to do the exactly that. I am the type of person who thinks I can get through all the tough times and so far I have managed, but that's just it. Managing and actually healing are two different things I am afraid. In any case, I wish you the best, I appreciate you and all of your intelligent insights and providing us with facts. THANK YOU.

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I’m very sad for you….some days it’s ok to just allow yourself to grieve and let it out. There is no timeline for grief. There are no hard rules. Just be kind to yourself and let your loved ones nurture you. We are here. Some days you just tell yourself a day at a time or under duress, an hour or a minute at a time.

I’m not going to lie that the horror of last week set off a sadness like no other. I’m not alone in this. It’s ok to take a break from publishing to get stronger. We will always wait for you. Life is filled with peaks and valleys….the valleys are rough. I always tell myself “this too shall pass” when it seems unbearable. It’s been 29 years since I lost my father to gun violence. I’m a broken record when I repeat that at the time, nobody knew what this felt like. It’s devastating to think hundreds & thousands now are just like me…not one milestone ever goes by where you celebrate with others & think, “he would have loved this.” I’m not alone in this and since, there have been many losses and times of great grief. Through it all, I can tell you, break it down into coping in short spurts. Even if it’s a minute at a time, it works. Grief is like a fog….you’re in it until you’re not & you look around one day and everything looks clearer. We love you & all that you give to your readers unselfishly. Time to be selfish and put your needs first. We will be waiting here and always, cheering you on. Much love, T

I’m so glad Susanna was acquitted…time to clean house. Durham should resign.

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First off, thank you for posting today and trying to keep all of us updated. It is greatly appreciated. Second, please just take care of yourself. That's the most important thing for you and your family.

I pray for you each day. Thank you for your beautiful salt-water pictures. ❤️❤️

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They must have scoped the lunch and dinned menus, and scoped when the buffet of hamberders and fries were going to make their first appearance, then the foreperson got serious and made sure that everyone's BLACK ink pens were in working order and got that sh@t done.

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Thank you for the update. Are you able to talk to someone about the depth of your feelings Filey? I'm sure you've received all kinds of advice but short of talking can you write your feelings for your private consumption? Whatever it takes to see more light. Blessings.

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Take care of yourself! I had noticed you haven’t posted recently, I am sorry about your former boss.

The Texas shooting was horrific. What makes it worse is we know nothing will be done to prevent the next one.

Take all the time you need. It’s almost summer - enjoy it!

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Thank you for the update. Please take care

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I thought of you as soon as I read about Durham's loss. Love it!

Please take care of yourself and know you're loved and needed by many people ❤️

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Shared it. Take care of you. We appreciate you so much 💕💕 and love the Vitamin Sea you share. Thanks for all you do

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Congrats Filey!! 🔥 You did good with all your research and reporting on this. Unlike other’s that really bought into conspiracy theories and blamed the wrong people (and I’m not just talking about Elon Musk.). Yeppers, the man that wanted to buy Twitter tweets out disinfo and conspiracy theories but hey, free-speech, right? lol. He should seek solace with the other person that was so wrong on this case. You know the one that shall rename nameless. Anyway good job. We appreciate you so much and those eating crow tonight better eat it with utensils so they can “put a fork in it.”. 😂 We 💗 u!!

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