That sound you hear —yea that John Durham preparing his resignation letter okay I’m joking about Durham resignation but at this point the Attorney General should ask for Durham’s resignation
Filet, I am truly so very sorry. Please seek support and lean on those who love you. We will be here when you are feeling ready to tackle this mess we are in as a country. Be well. Be kind to yourself. Believe that you are needed and loved dearly.❤️
LOLs I legit LOLs (I needed to laugh) thank you for the kind words. I realized late last night that the world was moving on —and yet I’m stuck on the hamster wheel of grief and I’m tired of being sad. So I’m going to work on getting off that wheel and embracing the 14 years I spent with him was a gift. But it’s hard
This sounds exactly like Spicy would do - pull up her own big girl pants. It is hard AF, I know, but this sounds like a good plan. We are all traumatized by the repeated horrors, and we weren't made to withstand it. Hugs.
As for Bullshit Durham, it serves him right to be toasted in the decision. Blue Qanon wanted Hillary to be implicated in a guilty verdict SO BAD 🤣💙💙💙💙💙
First and foremost are your steps to healing. I cannot imagine having to explain to others because of the work relationship what has happened. You are reliving the initial grief on a regular.
We will be here when you write, always.
Thank you for this, I will go study it now. Be good to you.
I remember when you told me. My heart broke for you because losing a child is a kind of bereavement that no one should have to endure. I hope I was compassionate to you. If I wasn’t in truly ashamed of myself because this kind grief is like an open wound that is hard to heal. Sending you big virtual hug
Have you thought of seeking professional help? Can tell from my personal standpoint and life right now I am an inch away to do the exactly that. I am the type of person who thinks I can get through all the tough times and so far I have managed, but that's just it. Managing and actually healing are two different things I am afraid. In any case, I wish you the best, I appreciate you and all of your intelligent insights and providing us with facts. THANK YOU.
I think it’s time for me to schedule an appointment with a grief counselor. I’m realizing that the previous suicides, I may not have fully processed those. And that fear is likely contributing to my inability to accept his death. To be frank in the past I either carried on like life was normal while shoving down my feelings or simply ignored the grief. This suicide completely upended me and my typical pragmatic axis was completely thrown off. My main boss gave me until next Friday to either use the EAP services or schedule an appointment because I clearly don’t have the necessary tools to move on.
I told him last Friday that I’m kind of tired of the paralysis that grief can cause. I think he’s worried about me and if I’m being honest I’m kind of worried about myself.
I’m very sad for you….some days it’s ok to just allow yourself to grieve and let it out. There is no timeline for grief. There are no hard rules. Just be kind to yourself and let your loved ones nurture you. We are here. Some days you just tell yourself a day at a time or under duress, an hour or a minute at a time.
I’m not going to lie that the horror of last week set off a sadness like no other. I’m not alone in this. It’s ok to take a break from publishing to get stronger. We will always wait for you. Life is filled with peaks and valleys….the valleys are rough. I always tell myself “this too shall pass” when it seems unbearable. It’s been 29 years since I lost my father to gun violence. I’m a broken record when I repeat that at the time, nobody knew what this felt like. It’s devastating to think hundreds & thousands now are just like me…not one milestone ever goes by where you celebrate with others & think, “he would have loved this.” I’m not alone in this and since, there have been many losses and times of great grief. Through it all, I can tell you, break it down into coping in short spurts. Even if it’s a minute at a time, it works. Grief is like a fog….you’re in it until you’re not & you look around one day and everything looks clearer. We love you & all that you give to your readers unselfishly. Time to be selfish and put your needs first. We will be waiting here and always, cheering you on. Much love, T
I’m so glad Susanna was acquitted…time to clean house. Durham should resign.
I lurves you -that’s all. Also sending you a virtual hug because you are one of the kindest, compassionate and generous person I’ve encountered and I am lucky to have friends like you😘
First off, thank you for posting today and trying to keep all of us updated. It is greatly appreciated. Second, please just take care of yourself. That's the most important thing for you and your family.
I pray for you each day. Thank you for your beautiful salt-water pictures. ❤️❤️
They must have scoped the lunch and dinned menus, and scoped when the buffet of hamberders and fries were going to make their first appearance, then the foreperson got serious and made sure that everyone's BLACK ink pens were in working order and got that sh@t done.
Thank you for the update. Are you able to talk to someone about the depth of your feelings Filey? I'm sure you've received all kinds of advice but short of talking can you write your feelings for your private consumption? Whatever it takes to see more light. Blessings.
Congrats Filey!! 🔥 You did good with all your research and reporting on this. Unlike other’s that really bought into conspiracy theories and blamed the wrong people (and I’m not just talking about Elon Musk.). Yeppers, the man that wanted to buy Twitter tweets out disinfo and conspiracy theories but hey, free-speech, right? lol. He should seek solace with the other person that was so wrong on this case. You know the one that shall rename nameless. Anyway good job. We appreciate you so much and those eating crow tonight better eat it with utensils so they can “put a fork in it.”. 😂 We 💗 u!!
Also please take care of yourself inside and out. Take all the time you need and put you and your family first. Take a break for as long as you need and as often as you need. Family and good health are the 2 most important things in our lives.
Filet, I am truly so very sorry. Please seek support and lean on those who love you. We will be here when you are feeling ready to tackle this mess we are in as a country. Be well. Be kind to yourself. Believe that you are needed and loved dearly.❤️
-Filey- darn autocorrect.🤦🏼♀️
LOLs I legit LOLs (I needed to laugh) thank you for the kind words. I realized late last night that the world was moving on —and yet I’m stuck on the hamster wheel of grief and I’m tired of being sad. So I’m going to work on getting off that wheel and embracing the 14 years I spent with him was a gift. But it’s hard
This sounds exactly like Spicy would do - pull up her own big girl pants. It is hard AF, I know, but this sounds like a good plan. We are all traumatized by the repeated horrors, and we weren't made to withstand it. Hugs.
As for Bullshit Durham, it serves him right to be toasted in the decision. Blue Qanon wanted Hillary to be implicated in a guilty verdict SO BAD 🤣💙💙💙💙💙
First and foremost are your steps to healing. I cannot imagine having to explain to others because of the work relationship what has happened. You are reliving the initial grief on a regular.
We will be here when you write, always.
Thank you for this, I will go study it now. Be good to you.
Back at you; Be Well. The sounds of the ocean are calming and healing. Take the time to take it all in.
My love to you File. I'm still struggling with my youngest sons death almost a year ago. It's ok to not be ok as long as you realize that.
I remember when you told me. My heart broke for you because losing a child is a kind of bereavement that no one should have to endure. I hope I was compassionate to you. If I wasn’t in truly ashamed of myself because this kind grief is like an open wound that is hard to heal. Sending you big virtual hug
Thank you for this reporting, Filey.
Have you thought of seeking professional help? Can tell from my personal standpoint and life right now I am an inch away to do the exactly that. I am the type of person who thinks I can get through all the tough times and so far I have managed, but that's just it. Managing and actually healing are two different things I am afraid. In any case, I wish you the best, I appreciate you and all of your intelligent insights and providing us with facts. THANK YOU.
I think it’s time for me to schedule an appointment with a grief counselor. I’m realizing that the previous suicides, I may not have fully processed those. And that fear is likely contributing to my inability to accept his death. To be frank in the past I either carried on like life was normal while shoving down my feelings or simply ignored the grief. This suicide completely upended me and my typical pragmatic axis was completely thrown off. My main boss gave me until next Friday to either use the EAP services or schedule an appointment because I clearly don’t have the necessary tools to move on.
I told him last Friday that I’m kind of tired of the paralysis that grief can cause. I think he’s worried about me and if I’m being honest I’m kind of worried about myself.
Yes, please seek help. So glad to read you are recognizing it and btw really awesome boss you have there. HUGS!!!!!
I’m very sad for you….some days it’s ok to just allow yourself to grieve and let it out. There is no timeline for grief. There are no hard rules. Just be kind to yourself and let your loved ones nurture you. We are here. Some days you just tell yourself a day at a time or under duress, an hour or a minute at a time.
I’m not going to lie that the horror of last week set off a sadness like no other. I’m not alone in this. It’s ok to take a break from publishing to get stronger. We will always wait for you. Life is filled with peaks and valleys….the valleys are rough. I always tell myself “this too shall pass” when it seems unbearable. It’s been 29 years since I lost my father to gun violence. I’m a broken record when I repeat that at the time, nobody knew what this felt like. It’s devastating to think hundreds & thousands now are just like me…not one milestone ever goes by where you celebrate with others & think, “he would have loved this.” I’m not alone in this and since, there have been many losses and times of great grief. Through it all, I can tell you, break it down into coping in short spurts. Even if it’s a minute at a time, it works. Grief is like a fog….you’re in it until you’re not & you look around one day and everything looks clearer. We love you & all that you give to your readers unselfishly. Time to be selfish and put your needs first. We will be waiting here and always, cheering you on. Much love, T
I’m so glad Susanna was acquitted…time to clean house. Durham should resign.
I lurves you -that’s all. Also sending you a virtual hug because you are one of the kindest, compassionate and generous person I’ve encountered and I am lucky to have friends like you😘
Likewise, my friend!❤️
First off, thank you for posting today and trying to keep all of us updated. It is greatly appreciated. Second, please just take care of yourself. That's the most important thing for you and your family.
I pray for you each day. Thank you for your beautiful salt-water pictures. ❤️❤️
They must have scoped the lunch and dinned menus, and scoped when the buffet of hamberders and fries were going to make their first appearance, then the foreperson got serious and made sure that everyone's BLACK ink pens were in working order and got that sh@t done.
Thank you for the update. Are you able to talk to someone about the depth of your feelings Filey? I'm sure you've received all kinds of advice but short of talking can you write your feelings for your private consumption? Whatever it takes to see more light. Blessings.
Take care of yourself! I had noticed you haven’t posted recently, I am sorry about your former boss.
The Texas shooting was horrific. What makes it worse is we know nothing will be done to prevent the next one.
Take all the time you need. It’s almost summer - enjoy it!
Thank you for the update. Please take care
I thought of you as soon as I read about Durham's loss. Love it!
Please take care of yourself and know you're loved and needed by many people ❤️
Shared it. Take care of you. We appreciate you so much 💕💕 and love the Vitamin Sea you share. Thanks for all you do
Congrats Filey!! 🔥 You did good with all your research and reporting on this. Unlike other’s that really bought into conspiracy theories and blamed the wrong people (and I’m not just talking about Elon Musk.). Yeppers, the man that wanted to buy Twitter tweets out disinfo and conspiracy theories but hey, free-speech, right? lol. He should seek solace with the other person that was so wrong on this case. You know the one that shall rename nameless. Anyway good job. We appreciate you so much and those eating crow tonight better eat it with utensils so they can “put a fork in it.”. 😂 We 💗 u!!
Also please take care of yourself inside and out. Take all the time you need and put you and your family first. Take a break for as long as you need and as often as you need. Family and good health are the 2 most important things in our lives.