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First and foremost, Happy Mother’s Day Filey. It is truly heartbreaking to hear how painful this is. Unfortunately, there has been too many suicides in my circle among friends whole lost children, the most recent one this last Christmas. I have hugged, cried & listened and not once have I ever been able to come up with anything coherent to offer. I can only say that there’s a line from Sleepless in Seattle I think about often. The movie came out at a time when I had lost the 3 most important people in my life. The minute I saw the particular scene of a grieving widower, it was forever etched in my brain.

This is exactly my process…I am so profoundly sad for you…..

When the radio psychologist asks what newly widowed Sam is going to do, he responds with the following:

“Sam Baldwin : Well, I'm gonna get out of bed every morning... breathe in and out all day long. Then, after a while I won't have to remind myself to get out of bed every morning and breathe in and out... and, then after a while, I won't have to think about how I had it great and perfect for a while.”

This is where I’m at today…much love to you….❤️

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I know I don’t say this enough —you by far are one of the most compassionate and gentle souls I’m privileged enough to call a friend. You always know what to say and your empathy is truly a gift. Thank you for being a safe harbor. Wishing you a Happy Mother’s Day

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Thank you Filey. You are loved. ❤️❤️❤️

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I am very sorry for your grief. May you be treated like queen you are this Mother's Day.

As for Durham, I hope this all ends with a mistrial due to his shitting goal posts. Best term ever!

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This was quite a summation, and you are the consummate warrior queen. Take time to grieve thoroughly, please.

Mother's Day is always "complicated", for myself and so many others. Sending all my best and warmest thoughts 🙏💙

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I remember you sharing your loss and grief with me on Twitter. I was going to privately reach out to you to let you know you are in my thoughts. No matter how much time passes, the pain and grief will be there. Sending you a (virtual hug) -I use to use the ghost hug gif on twitter but this platform has limitations on the comment section

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Many thanks, sis. Always appreciated 😘

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Thanks Filey for what you do. We also had a suicide this week. A son of a close friend, it’s just so devastating. I saw signs in his Facebook posts, said something to family but now regret I didn’t do more. So sorry for your loss.

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You are beautiful. Your wounds and trauma will also eventually turn beautiful too.

Happy Mother's Day to all of you, and all different kinds of Moms everywhere ! Love ya

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you will heal. i'm so so sorry for you loss. you won't ever forget and won't stop wondering why, but you will heal dear one. stay firey.

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I appreciate you more than you ever know. Sending tons of love your way.

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I don’t know why I’m crying but what a beautiful display of affection and tribute to his friend. You and your husband inspire #lifegoals.

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