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Sep 1, 2021Liked by File411

Filey...it's been an education. I truly appreciate the information as it has helped me evaluate misinformation vs. information! Thank you.

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Thank you for trusting me and finding value in my work

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We skeptics should have our own corner of the bar, dontcha think?

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INDEED…

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There is so much Id love to say here but I needed to process this piece. First off, I want to reiterate how much I live in awe of your strength and tenacity. The stress would’ve killed me had I faced this level of harassment and stalkery. I don’t know how you’ve managed to stay level headed. I am 100% certain that the threats of suicide were used as a manipulation and a tool to keep you invested in what turned into an abusive and toxic relationship. I have experience with people in my family with one person with borderline personality disorder and two people with narcissistic personality disorder. When you grow up close to the vortex of crazy, you identify it in others in a matter of seconds because the survival instinct is to stay away. Everything you have described about this, is reminiscent of parts of these disorders. The level of manipulation and the anger issues, coupled by perhaps any addiction or chemical imbalances, is a recipe for grade A toxicity. These people burn down every single bridge while laming others. They negate responsibility for their actions. My friend calls them emotional arsonists. They thrive on drama and they need to be the center of attention. Your traumatic experiences with suicide, is so horrendous....my heart breaks for you....I was speechless upon reading your account. Predatorial people prey on those vulnerabilities. They are often intelligent and use their given talents for manipulation instead of greater good. Their worlds are built around their egos and constant need for satisfying those egos. You could’ve given said person the dreamiest of dream team lawyers, and he still would e managed to blow it up, it’s in his nature. His recourse and mode of operating is to blame external forces and NEVER take responsibility for his own actions. Whatever family issues and custody issues he has or had, were at his own hands. You didn’t create his problems but people like him use every opportunity to find an opening to spread their illness and bring others into their vortex. He knew he was manipulating you. One family member used to threaten suicide constantly and after a while, instead of hanging in there, I walked away.....because the problems were never solvable without compliance to get better. The amount of guilt for walking away was overbearing but the price of staying in was not an option. This person knows how to get everyone around her in distress and then walks away from the burning building and them blames others for the fire. Your work speaks for itself. The sacrifices you’ve made to be a beacon of light shining on the truth, makes your efforts heroic. Your readers, followers and friends will always have your back and will always love you. You prove daily that nothing matters but the facts. You’ve given us more than we ever deserve. It’s been so appreciated. Sending you a big hug......words are not enough to show you my gratitude. You’re my hero......I hate that anyone hurt you like this. I hate the trauma of what you’ve witnessed. I admire you endlessly for sharing this private and deeply painful experience. Much love Filey, Tamara

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Can I just say that I’m in awe of you. That you’ve always been the voice of reason and your soul is that of a selfless nurturer. And you’re so right about the vortex. It wasn’t until I fully extricated myself from him did I realize the manipulation and narcissistic behavior. His depth of hatred towards women (yet he portends to be a champion of women) and how just vile and cruel he really was/is.

The predicable pivot that he & his enablers used by stating;

“you need to stay away from (insert victims names) because

-she’s crazy,

-she’s a stalker,

-she’s dangerous,

-she’s a liar…”

I realized this was meant to silo each victim so they wouldn’t find each other or compare what he had done to them. Truly sickening behavior.

I went to LooLoo and apologized for doubting her. Saying that she was not obligated to forgive me but I was truly sorry for doubting her and not being as supportive as I should have been. And in true LooLoo form, she generously forgave me and we’ve built a strong friendship. She’s freaking awesome.

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Thank you Filey. I was truly moved by what you shared and it sat heavy in my heart. I am humbled by such kind words. I love Loo.....she is a rare gem and her combination of pure heart, honesty and sass, make her so endearing. She makes me laugh.....as for the evil that came toward you, those people will not endure. Their pathos will be their undoing. Your work continues. You are so loved and cherished by those of us who have followed you for so long. Much love, Tamara

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This and your DARVO article tie things up in a neat little bow for me. You are a rock star and the sum of all your experiences. I have friends who have suicidal ideations because of mental health concerns - I feared I would find one of them one day, especially because one "practiced" in front of me. I got her to the hospital faster than you can say "Supercalifragilisticexpealidocious." His issues are completely different. And much more dangerous. Stay strong, Filey!

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You are a badass--and I thank you for standing up and putting yourself in the crosshairs, so to speak. I am truly sorry you have had to go through all of this. I too left an abusive relationship--it was not easy to do. I am fortunate in that no-one in my immediate orbit has committed suicide, and I cannot imagine the pain that must have cost you. Thank you, yet one more time, for your strength, truth, honesty and candor. Blessed be.

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Sep 1, 2021Liked by File411

Shazam, Shazam, Shazam 💥

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I had to edit this article way too many times because I didn’t want the predicate to be based in emotion —I did my best to stick to the facts and it required multiple edits from my attention—apparently my quota of Fs isn’t unlimited but I did teach them a new way to use the F word <snort>

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You’re so missed by your friends & readers. From Theresa:

https://twitter.com/theresamax/status/1433313933855764482?s=21

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Please let her know that I truly miss my Twitter engagements with her. She is truly one of the nicest people on that platform and is a force to be reckoned with

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So here's the thing.... just an observation, as it were. His retweets of legitimate folk, like Christopher Burgess, Scott MacFarlane (hopefully one of the good ones), government and military accounts, salt his tweeter feed with reason which adds a soupçon of credibility. I really don't read his stuff anymore, and I never subscribed, but I do look at who he's retwittering.

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This is an astute observation because that’s exactly his SOP. Credibility by proxy

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He has a lot of followers, so I can see why credible twitter accounts would enjoy his retweets-it enhances their reach. I can’t blame them but unfortunately that, in turn, enhances his credibility. I wish it would stop.

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https://youtu.be/Fa9nN3G2CSg

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Holy shittlestix how did you know that song was running on loop as I was editing/writing this article

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To be fair my playlist for writing/editing this article was:

Sweet Jane by Cowboy Junkies

Fade into you by Mazzy Star

Angel by Massive Attack

Madness by Muse

Brass Monkey by Beastie Boys

Christian Woman by Typo Negative

Sweet Disposable by Temper Trap

Crazy (Cover) by Daniela Andrade

Something About You (feat. Laura Jansen) - Level 42 Cover by Corey Brothers

IDGAF by Dua Lipa

Asshole ft. Skylar Grey by Eminem

Fuck you by Beastie Boys

In the office my writing playlist are legendary because yea my meta is petty AF

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you had me at CJs, MS, Muse, TT ... maybe add Erase/Rewind by The Cardigans, Zombie by The Cranberries, You Don't Get Me High Anymore and Black Out Days and When I'm Small by Phantogram?

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I LOVE Eminem, but I did not know this song, so I had to go look, and it led me to one of my favorite and MOST hilarious mash ups, hope everyone can deal...because it's HILARIOUS!!!! https://youtu.be/6yqrhCNHQwQ Someone put a LOT of work into this.

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OMFG so GOOD legit on the ground full body laughing— I love that you just get my sense of humor -😍😂😍😂 😂

💀 just 💀

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I'm seriously STILL laughing from rewatching this! I have mad respect for the time, energy and game whoever put this together has! lol

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LOL! Because I was the one who first said, "Do you think this is like a NBK thing," late one about a year ago ;p xoxo .... AS soon as I read this I thought to myself, "I have the perfect soundtrack!"

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Sep 1, 2021Liked by File411

So … the header on the table at the end of the article …

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Correct

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Read the footnote closely - it’s there

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took me a while, however I did a lot of unfollowing after reassessing the "value add" of content, free or not

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Again, many thanks for sharing your insights. You truly have guided us through the lies on twitter. You have save me and many others much grief. Appreciate your honesty!!!

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I never planned on being that transparent but once I got the okay I figure it was time to share with my readers a bit of the background and details. I really do not take my readers trust for granted but I felt obligated to share more than I had in the past. I needed time to work through my own pain and accountability to enable me to write a factual recitation of what occurred

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He’s vile…all of the women who shared personal stories, only to get them thrown in their faces by one of the clowns supporting him… it’s shameful. Had no idea you’d been through so much. I’m so very sorry for those tragedies. I had two mental abusers, both got physical from time to time. It is absolutely hell trying to leave. Take care.

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I know that you get it because in the past we’ve talked about the courage and the most dangerous time for the person being abused is when they make plans to leave. For me it was my father & brother saying —we are tied of seeing you with black eyes, busted lip he is going to kill you and you have to leave him. You can’t fix him. Without their tough love & support I don’t know if I would have been able to leave. Sending you a ghost hug

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Sep 2, 2021Liked by File411

Sitting in the ghost hug 🥰🥰🥰 carry on fine soldier.

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Damn. You really are the real-life Olivia Pope. I hope you have the fab wardrobe too, you’ve clearly earned it.

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No not really — but I do know Judy Smith and she’s a gladiator and freaking awesome

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Ahhhh. Spicey/Filey.

Sending you a big, big hug.

I have been staying off the bird app to protect my sanity. I sleep better.

Heard the punditsxaskibg what happens when someone "weaponized your values .

Those of us, like yourself, know precisely what feels like, don't we? Learning what it "looks like" - before being impacted - is the hardest part. Because we care...and they use it to shore up their own frailties.

I must confess I have a Love/Hate relationship with your posts from the beach, tho. But only because I'm jealous.

Truth isn't always the easy way, but that's another set of values they abuse, too.

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I started reading this before school and just finished it now that I am home. A couple of reactions: First, holy crap and a big hug whenever you need it for being such an amazingly strong surviver, in your personal life and for the absolute bs you went through a bunch of times on twitter. Second, the game theory dude is a scummy scammer. I first realized this when all of his tweets were pure hyperbole, which as I teach my students, are statements not to be believed because they are gross exaggerations and never the real truth. It really stinks seeing so many people being gullible and paying money for nonsense. So as always, thank you for putting out the truth with receipts. Plus, I have always loved your snark.

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He hasn’t tweeted on that account in over 35+ days but he’s still pulling in $3K per month. My assumption is 300+ individuals completely forgot that he’s charging them $10 per month. His podcast hasn’t had any new casts since April so his Patreon patrons are also being swindled.

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He is the horseshoe and as bad as those he bitches about.

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I think a lot of people overlook the DOJ (both under Obama and Trump)

In 2014 -this case marked the 1st use of economic espionage

https://www.justice.gov/opa/pr/us-charges-five-chinese-military-hackers-cyber-espionage-against-us-corporations-and-labor

And in 2015

https://www.justice.gov/usao-wdpa/pr/us-charges-five-chinese-military-hackers-cyber-espionage-against-us-corporations-and

Admittedly when WestingHouse was targeted -given the close proximity of the Ukraine & WH nuclear energy contract -which was a mitigation plan after Russia’s crash overdrive which crippled the Ukrainian Energy sector

Incidentally yesterday WestingHouse made a formal announcement

https://info.westinghousenuclear.com/news/energoatom-and-westinghouse-advance-clean-energy

“Energoatom has selected Westinghouse AP1000 technology for their long-term goals to develop new NPPs in Ukraine. The agreement solidifies Westinghouse and Energoatom to pursue the AP1000 reactor projects and help Ukraine reach its de-carbonisation goals utilising clean, reliable, and cost-effective nuclear energy”

But what he conflated was WestingHouse and SV Summer & Cooper - SCANA heavily relied upon WH

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