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Thank you for the D A R V O information. It puts a couple of things in perspective for me.

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It was a new concept for me to understand —there have been some really brutal days, on that particular day my attorney set me the 1st medium article. A few months later the commonwealth attorney called about the possibility that I’d be likely called as a witness before a grand jury and I had a moment of panic saying out loud but what if [redacted] says I deserved the stalking and harassment —the CA took a deep breath and asked me if I have ever heard of DARVO -I said yes my attorney sent me an article a while ago —the CA sent me the 2018 article and said; you didn’t do anything to warrant a 2+year stalking & harassment, you are dealing with an apex predator who’s likely broken several laws. I thought my readers would benefit from the knowledge imparted on me by 2 individuals who’ve been unflinching advocates. I’m glad it was helpful because thar was the goal <hugs>

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Aug 3, 2021Liked by File411

While he may have gotten NY through the worst of Covid, this is absolutely unacceptable behavior, so he must resign.

Was he asleep during the me too movement, or like many serial abusers, did he think these standards didn't or wouldn't apply to him?

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Aug 3, 2021Liked by File411

The unmitigated gall of cuomo et al, here’s my open prayer that all the ‘but she…’ people just sit down and STFU

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I purposefully didn’t opine because I wanted to listen to the women and that’s why I remained silent —until the publication of this exhaustive report.

The kind of outright vulgar conduct enumerated in this nearly 200 page report with 4 appendices is indeed shocking

I think whats most stomach turning is how other women treated the victims

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Aug 3, 2021Liked by File411

I’ve been where these women found themselves, been told my ‘responsibility’ and had multiple careers tanked bc men (and their protectors) retaliated, and proving it is ridiculous…just sick of it.

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Have you seen what happened on Twitter because some came out and shared what a Blue-QAnon did to them? Yeah so I completely understand and I’m sorry you’ve been adversely impacted. I genuinely hate women who pick a sexual predator over a “sister”

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Aug 3, 2021Liked by File411

Yes I saw, almost like 2 things can’t be true concurrently…it’s the crux of almost every ‘defense’ to trash a Vic with their life story- to sow doubt at best, to destroy at worst. This investigation at least came out…the wagons r typically way more effective.

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You know, at first when I heard the reporting I thought, yeah, an old white Italian guy, I'm really surprised - NOT. I was hoping it was the angry orange lashing out. I feel sorry for the women in his family. I'm sure they had some clues, but thought he was harmless. How did their friends react to him? Is he the uncle that insists he has to hug you tight and kiss you on the lips? That even the males in the family know all the females cringe when he's around? Ya gotta wonder...

p.s. I'm from an Italian family, and there is currently one in his 80's. The other one died while serving time in prison for sexual abuse.

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I married into an Italian family— so I get it

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oh... sorry. lolz

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Seems the last few years have started to unwind the stronghold that wealthy men in power have over victims reporting assault, abuse & harassment. Once Weinstein’s thirty year rape/assault career unraveled and was finally adjudicated, we are about to see that women will not back down or accept this anymore. Cosby served some time and perhaps not enough, but this pattern of using position of power into bullying women not to report or threatening careers or attacking them publicly, will not be an enduring strategy. We are getting smarter about abuse, harassment and those who manipulate and navigate their behaviors by hiding behind their power. Chino must resign. This won’t go away but it’s certainly the beginning of an end to these men who’ve managed to hide behind their office. This is definitely more than enough to force his resignation. Anyone else would be facing potential charges.

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I don’t disagree. My only ask is that his replacement be Republican proof and any of their fuckery afoot with regard to Trump.

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I think that’s a reasonable ask… but I’m not in charge

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I didn't want it to be true because I like Cuomo but, yes, he needs to step down. :/

BTW, I'm so sorry you went through some things yourself, Filey. God bless you and yours.

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You are far more charitable than I am - the appendices should be required reading —every allegation was substantiated. And yet Gov Cuomo’s victims were immediately harassed. I don’t know what else to say beyond RESIGN

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